I turned 29 recently.
Here are 29 things I’ve learned, using the words of others. You all know how much I love quotes :)
And really, what have we learned that someone much wiser than us hasn’t already articulated?
1. You understand your parents better as you get older
The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise. – from Quora
2. Relationships are like cars
Women treat cars like men treat relationships. They think that as long as it works, they’re fine, but they don’t get the checkups, they don’t pump the tires, they don’t change the oil, and when it breaks down they’re like, what happened to my car?? Men are the same way with relationships, we just sorta assume it’s fine as long as it’s there and it’s working… – Adam Carolla
*I don’t remember the precise quote, and can’t find it online, so this is me paraphrasing. Also listen to Loveline, it’s great.
3. Travel now. Not later. Now
We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
– T.S. Eliot
4. Long-term happiness is about sacrifice
The only thing that will make you happy is to set a goal, then kill yourself to achieve it. I have a theory that the elation you feel is directly proportional to the sacrifices you make. – Dr. Henry Nicholas
5. Never stop learning
活到老，学到老 (Literal English: live until you’re old, study until you’re old)
6. Make 5-year commitments
If you actually want results, make a 5-year commitment to a particular path, like building an online business, developing your social skills, becoming a world traveler, etc. A lesser commitment is largely pointless. – Steve Pavlina
*I feel the need to point out that I am horrible at this
7. It’s never too late
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today
8. Conquer fear and you’ll be unstoppable
Evict your inner wussy – David DeAngelo
9. No one’s perfect. Accept it and move on
The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for. – Bob Marley
10. Confidence is everything
You sound like a 17-year old guy who’s happy to get some pussy. I want you to sound like a 30-year old guy who likes to fuck. – D.O.C.
11. Re-think, re-do, and re-learn what’s important. And again. And again. And again
To make sure this goal was achieved, I created eight laws of learning, namely, explanation, demonstration, imitation, repetition, repetition, repetition, and repetition. – John Wooden
12. In startups and relationships, pick the right market
When a great team meets a lousy market, market wins.
When a lousy team meets a great market, market wins.
When a great team meets a great market, something special happens.
13. Kobe is funny
This is another example of the basic difference between [Shaq] and Kobe. Ask Shaq to do something and he’ll say: ‘No, I don’t want to do that.’ But after a little pouting, he will do it. Ask Kobe and he’ll say, ‘OK,’ and then he will do whatever he wants. – Phil Jackson
14. Buy less stuff
Consumerism is like a drug that [people] wanna get off but they don’t know how. – Linus Chung
15. Break the rules
Society tames the wolf into a dog. And man is the most domesticated animal of all. – Nietzsche
16. Hire and keep great people
The 2 hardest things you’ll have to do when running a company are recruiting and talking people out of leaving. – Marc Andreessen
17. It’s what you love
Charlie Kaufman: But she thought you were pathetic.
Donald Kaufman: That was her business, not mine. You are what you love, not what loves you.
(my favorite quote from Adaptation)
18. What the hell is water?
Two young fish are swimming along one day. As they do, they are passed by a wiser, older fish coming the other way. The wiser fish greets the two as he passes, saying, “Morning boys, how’s the water?” The other two continue to swim in silence for a little while, until the first one turns to the other and asks, “What the hell is water?” – David Foster Wallace
19. Own a word
The most powerful concept in marketing is owning a word in the prospect’s mind. – 22 Immutable Laws of Marketing
20. Don’t make exceptions
It’s easier to hold to your principles 100 percent of the time than it is to hold to them 98 percent of the time. – Clay Christensen
21. You’re eating fake wasabi
Real wasabi used in minority of Japanese restaurants, even in Japan. Most restaurant wasabi is actually a mixture of horseradish, Chinese mustard, and green food coloring. [source]
22. We’re wired to look at hot girls
Guys’ brains light up while looking at pics of hot girls in the same way that girls’ brains light up while in deep conversation – Dr. Drew
23. We know nothing
96% of all matter is hypothesized to be dark matter or dark energy. We only see/feel/detect 4%. [source]
Scientists estimate that we have discovered less than 20% of the species on Earth. [source]
24. Aliens exist
There are an estimated 100 billion planets in the Milky Way ALONE. [source]
25. Drink more coffee
In the 18th century, coffee houses were known as Penny Universities. Steven Johnson argues that coffee (and coffeehouses) fueled the Enlightenment. Before coffee, people drank alcohol throughout the day. [source]
26. Listen to your gut
We have a functional and complex neural network or ‘brain’ in the gut, called the enteric brain, and fear is mediated by this brain. The # of neurons in our gut is equivalent to that of a cat! [source]
27. Happiness = Reality – Expectations
I’ve also seen it written as “Happiness = Reality / Expectations”. Either way, keep your expectations low
28. What do you think about in the shower?
Summary: What you think about in the shower is the top idea on your mind. To be successful, what you’re working on should be what you’re thinking about in the shower. The 2 major distractions are money (i.e. fundraising) and disputes (eg, Newton was so distracted by his disputes with Linus that he stopped publishing altogether). – from PG’s The Top Idea In Your Mind
29. Write often and much
Having high school students focus on coherent, organized, analytical writing significantly improves school performance and knowledge retention. [source]
There you have it, folks. I’m hoping to review and add one each year. Would be cool to see when I turn 100 ;)
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